Us in Death

Forever has the human race put some sort of tabboo on death and what it stands for. We all treat death as a very bad thing, but I beg to differ.

And no, I'm not standing up for suicide either.

I remember last year when I was busy writing my prelims that I crazy scared about what 2009 would have in store for me due to all the changes that happens after your matric year. And I remember very well how my friend told me; "After you finish your finals and get your results (and passed), you realise you've wasted 12 years of your life," which at first I didn't agree with. I can recall very clearly how exstatic I was when I got my results, because I passed and it meant the adult world had finally opened up to me. Then I realised that my friend was right. I have wasted 12 years of my life.

Now take the same scenario and apply it to death. Whatever your religion, what happens after you die is much different than living, and hopefully much better than the life you knew. So my theory is, after you die, you realise that you've wasted your entire life. Let's take my religion, Christians, for example. Christians believe that you'll either go to heaven or hell. Heaven being the best damn thing and hell being the worst damn thing. Now, obviously, if you're living your golden Christin life, you expect to go to heaven. So let's say this is true (for those none-believers to play along) and you die and you go to heaven. It is the best damn thing that could possibly happen to you. I'm pretty sure you'll look back onto life and think "Why did I take my life so damn seriously?" because in the end it's not what you do that matters, it's how you do it. Whether or not you were rich, but HOW YOU ACTED AS THE PERSON YOU ARE BLESSED TO BE.

There are a few things I've made priorities in my life which I think we all should consider in order to live happily and to our fullest:
1.) Choose to be happy. (Yes it is a decision).
2.) Don't make life compliated. (Yes, that is a decision as well).
3.) Don't take life, yourself or anyone else, seriously. Life is meant be fun.
4.) The only two people who should matter in your life is YOU and GOD. It's the best way to live, even if this sounds selfish to you, think about it for a bit and it'll make sense.
5.) Tell yourself everyday how fabulous,  beautiful and amazing you are, and MEAN IT. And BELIEVE IT.

Now I'll proceed to explain #4. Carefully read that statement again: The only two people who should matter in your life is YOU and GOD. Emphasise on SHOULD. I didn't say must. You're still supposed to care for those around you,  but they should not influence what goeson between YOU and GOD. In the end God's judging you on your relationship with HIM and your relationship with YOURSELF. Nobody else. It comes down to the saying "you can't love anyone if you don't love yourself". If you honestly care for yourself you will care for those around you, which will make you a beautiful person. Truly beautiful in God's eyes. Your life (and you) is a GIFT from GOD TO YOU. To no one else. If you don't reat it and yourself right, you will not make God very happy.

Once you sit down and think, things fall into perspective. But hey, ,these are just Lily's opinions. But these things are what made my life easiest to deal with right now. And they could help you too.

~Lily